‘RAPE’, is a noun and a verb, pronounced as reɪp, which means to force someone to have sex when he or she is unwilling. We can define it in 3 words as “killing someone’s soul.” We can represent it in 2 words as “forced sex”. We can also illustrate it in 1 word as a “crime”. But here we are not talking about the criminal who committed crime. We are talking about those who think that their wives are their personal property.
Are you thinking about what is the connection between rape and marriage? Have you ever heard of ‘marital rape’? Isn’t that sounds stupid… How can a husband rape his own wife?
Today my friend called me and said that” I want you to write an article. I replied,”what happened” as her voice crying in the wilderness. She started crying. But why? Why is she crying? Her husband is loyal, caring, handsome and rich. She don’t have any reason to cry. But it was all according to me, not according to her. Her actual state was something else. Then she used a sentence,”my husband had been repeatedly rapping her since years.” What???? I didn’t know what she was talking about. Then after taking a pause and a long breath, I understood her condition. The ‘defaulter’ was not only her husband but her family and herself too. Are you thinking how? Our parents have been teaching us how to be a ideal wife, which includes always give priority to your husband, never deny him for anything, his happiness is your happiness and accept everything related to him. Rather then teaching us this, they should have told us about ourselves, our feeling, or dreams, out desires, self-respect, etc. This is true that life is all about compromise and adaptation but it doesn’t mean ‘every time’. You don’t have to suffer every time. However, we do whatever our husbands want us to do. We say whatever our husbands want us to say. We perform every task of our life according to them. And over this, he says that he loves you. What kind of love he does if he can’t feel your pain and can’t analyse your problems. If he gives her food, shelter, and money for his own house then she is his slave. She can’t say “NO”. She has to do it. She doesn’t have any other option.
Ladies if you hurt him once then he will hurt you twice and he has been hurting you since years then why are you so quite?
Dear man, don’t ruin your relationship. Marital rape is much more complicated then rape. Rape is just a rape. There you have all the rights to raise your voice against the criminal but in marital rape, you don’t have this right. Here, you know that your criminal is your husband and you can’t register a FIR against him. The worst part is that you know he will be wild with you at night. Plus, you have to wake up next morning and make your rapist a toast. But not only this, you have to pretend like everything is normal. You have to pretend like you are fine in front of your parents. You know that your criminal is here; standing just in front of your refrigerator but you can’t do anything with him. You can’t say to the police that, “officers, the father of my kids, the man who promised me that he will always take care of me is my criminal. He raped me. Arrest him.” here’s the story ends.